A Tower Please.

Tigerlily is registered with OPP, the local police station has her pic and info on file. They have a list of instructions about how to search for and approach my daughter.
You might think that's going overboard, I think of it as a necessary precaution.

My girl is a flight risk.

I live in a constant state of fear.

I've lost my daughter before. She was asleep on the couch, I went upstairs to talk with my hubs and then the dog came upstairs all hyper and barky.
Tiger was 3 she woke up and walked out, keeping the dog inside and closing the doors behind her.
We are so lucky, I love my dog so much. She was found within 20 min.

A caregiver took her to the park with a couple other kids.
One of the kids fell down.
Tiger was found the next street over.

A friend watched Tiger. She went to the washroom Tiger walked out the backdoor.

We were in the backyard, a neighbour came up to talk to me, I turned away from Tiger.
She almost made it to the road.

The grocery store, the parking lot, the park, the hospital, the school.

My God the  public school, I found her down the street, they found her in the gym, at the other end of the building, walking out the front doors, in the library.
She learned how to disarm her proximity alarm, she gave it to another student, she walked past an entire school yard and down the street and no one stopped her.

Her new school has an alarmed front door and completely fenced school yard with a single gated access point.

But it gets worse folks.

Tiger can't swim, she has no body fat, low muscle tone and sinks like a stone.
But she loves the water.
Tiger likes small spaces.
Tiger likes high places.
Tiger can be oblivious to her surroundings and thus dangers like cars.


Now add to that my girl is beautiful.

I think about assault stats, Tigers risk isn't 1 in 10, her risk is 1 in 4.

We went to Costco this weekend, it only takes a moment  and she was down the aisle standing in front of a cart blocking the man's way. We can never , ever , relax.

It's hard to explain to non HFA parents just how serious the term flight risk is.
She might try n bail a few days in a row, or it might be months since the last incident of note.
But we can never, ever, relax.

Every noise wakes me up, I stay up till I know she is down for the count.
I don't shower or go to the bathroom if I can help it unless there is supervision for tiger.

Don't tell me all kids are a flight risk, because I'll tell you where to go.


The High Functioning Life, do you think I can get a building permit for a tower in my yard?

HFL Mama